Tuesday, January 27, 2015

Recovery of the Unique Inner Child




Icon Holy Wisdom by BR Lentz
The above icon is of Holy Wisdom as a young boy.

Luke 18 :  But Jesus called the children to him and said "Let the little
children come to me and do not hinder them, for the Kingdom of
God belong to such as these'


Have you noticed that many of the qualities
recommended by religion and spiritual and self-help gurus,
as well as creatives and artists,
 are those that we see embodied
by small, naturally happy, children?  Words such as innocence, wonder,
joy, curiosity, spontaneity, creativity, forgiveness, acceptance,
openness, honesty, sharing, the belief in miracles.
Have you witnessed the absolute ease with which a small child
lets go of feelings of injustice or betrayal?


Have you also noticed that many miraculous apparitions and
here I am thinking of the manifestations of Mother Mary,
appear only to children?  There are sometimes adults present, but
they do not see what the children see nor understand that a transparent
universe and reality is even possible.


The journey that we call the 'spiritual journey' or the
journey of awakening is the journey back to the
authentic true self.  It is the journey to the original
whole child that you were at birth. And this you is a unique
and original being with the divine spark brightly shining
in your heart.

Natural Mother
 Soulcollage(R) card made by Hettienne Grobler

  
The sense of wonder, innocence, freedom and joy,
were mostly lost as we were raised in a society and a culture
that does not really understand  and probably does not value 
the emotional nature of the child.  
Yet, our religions teach that the child is precious
and closest to the Creator.


Have you noticed the similarity between myths, religious
stories and FAIRY TALES?  Yes, fairy tales.
The stories of wonderment and recovery and miraculous
manifestation :  the stories of the Fairy Godmother
and the Blue Fairy?



Recovery of the inner child is a journey of pulling
the layers of suppression and adaptation back and releasing
the whole, innocent self back to life.
Children have been raised in a system of pedagogy in which
the child is systematically being taught to become someone else.
This is a system in which the parent has all the power and the 
child none.  The child does not have the power to question the
reasoning (because I say so!);  the child does not have the
power to have his or her emotional needs and often
physical needs met and the child and all of society,
has been conditioned into Thou Shalt not be Aware. (This
is a very apt title of one of Alice Miller's books - a proponent
of the belief that the healing of the inner self or soul lies
in the remembered pain of childhood.

In many instances, cruelty and subtle violence (I am not even speaking
about physical abuse) is applied to instill fear and
obedience into the young child.  Ignorant parents are not conscious
that they automatically pass on the injustices that were perpetrated
on them, onto their children.

As one releases oneself and set yourself free from the conditioning or training
received during childhood, your natural self with its inner vision, its empathy for all living
creatures and its inner knowledge is restored.
It is also the journey of releasing yourself and setting yourself
free from believing all that you were told about yourself.
It is a process of tearing the old pages out of a book and
allowing the child to fill those pages with his or her own images.
And thus you step into the mystical and magical world of soul,
alive within each and everyone of us.


Shrine of the lost child within by Hettienne

A child is seen as someone who, in the very least,
has to be  moulded to the hand of the parent, that is,
to the parent's will.  This obviously is based on the belief
that the child is at its deepest level sinful, or that it does not have
a deep and direct knowing of the love of the Creator.
The child, absolutely dependent
on the parent or caregiver, has no choice but to surrender
and hand over all control to the one who wields the power.
Even more painful is, in order for the child to survive,
he or she has to deny the neglect or abuse and never
hold the parents guilty of inflicting pain, intended or not.
In this way, one learns from a very young age, to abandon
and betray yourself and your soul.

To stay away from spiritual or religious or even mystical
terminology, one can regard the 'soul' as the deeply
sensitive, poetic, creative and emotional child-like self.
Soul is where you truly feel the injustices of being in this world
and soul is also where you can heal and become whole again.
Once you have seen the light of the truth of your own childhood
you can start the journey of finding your true self.

Alice Miller in her book Banished Knowledge writes :
On the basis of the pedagogy that was practised on us,
the exerting of unlimited power by the adult over the
child is still taken for granted.  Most people know nothing else.
It is only from a child who was never injured that we can learn
that entirely new, honest, and truly humane behaviour.  
Here I would like to add that this is demonstrated by the
power of witnessing or parenting your own inner child.*

Deep within that child's mind and inner eye,
is the image of the face that you knew before you were born
After years of conditioning and being told who and
what the divine face is and how it actually looks,
you have forgotten what you once knew.

You have also forgotten who you truly are.
And this may be seen as a mystical statement,
or it may not.
Religion, the authority of the spiritual leader
and mysticism are all big players in the power game.
It creates a hierarchy of social status and power.
Throw in even a smattering of knowledge of psychology
and you have a power house for influence and control over others.

The journey of awakening to the true self, is a journey home.
But home is not some far off distant heaven or land.
Home is where you live in your heart or soul.
Home is where you re-discover the face of God :
the face that you knew before you were born.


Namaste, Hettienne




*In her book Banished Knowledge, Alice Miller explains the Stettbacher
therapy which she herself for recovery and awakening.  It contains four steps :
(1) describing the situation and one's sensations;  (2) experiencing and 
expressing emotions;  (3) querying the situation;  and (4) articulating needs.






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